My father smokes and has never ever had a motivation strong enough to give it up. He reduced it only when health was proving to be a concern. The extend my mother tried to make him understand is overwhelming, but for those who smoke, I think it is not a concern as they all tend to believe in the extremely easily philosophy – ‘ It wont happen to me !‘
My father finally decided to bring his smokes drastically down after the doctors gave him a scare. Mind it, my mother is a doctor, an anesthetist to be more specific! But then, that never ever mattered. I think it is so disheartening to know that what your wife says to you is not important, but what truly makes a difference is what someone whose job is to say the same thing to everyone says it to you also! I think this just made my mother not interfere with what my father wishes to do about his smoking. Anyhow it didn’t matter that what she felt was the true scenario with no bias and no duty interfering, with the what the docs were saying.
I wondered then how I would react to such a situation. Will I become not bothered, or would I tend to pursue in spite of knowing that my words are falling on deaf ears. Knowing me, I do not think that I am capable of setting about with perseverance to make someone better. I believe that this is something which is that person’s complete personal choice and should be left to them to deal with. I feel I would just follow my mother and be quiet regarding matters where one can not make any effect.
But at the same time, I am not the kind of person who would like to be written off as inconsequential especially without a reason, and hence on fore thinking I believe I would become very irritated and maybe also adamant to prove my point in any other means.
Anyhow, I guess that would be good for the smoker anyways!