March 10, 2012

A day


Some days you just sit and try to figure out whats wrong

Some days you just try to reason out

Some days you try to do anything to make things better

And, some days you just feel beaten.


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March 1, 2012

Tea for two and a piece of cake by Preeti Shenoy

A book set in Mumbai and Pondicherry, about the life of a middle class girl, who marries a rich man and then seeks happiness in being the perfect mother to her two children. The rich man though has different plans and walks out on his wife and two kids for a younger woman. He is unhappy about the way his life has panned out and he is set to make amends. He believes it was not his calling to be a father and that too at such a young age when his career was the most important factor. The girl, now a woman, a mother, decides she needs to get a grip on her life, move ahead and moreover she is also set to prove that she is capable of making a success of he life, which he has so easily mocked.

I will not detail the entire story from here, but only what I thought was most striking in this book. Preeti has touched upon many topics which affect many women in India and all make this a book where you will find yourself silently nodding your head as you read through the pages.

A single mother and her dilemma on what the society and world will talk makes her go into a cocoon and not trust even the most trustworthy souls. Friends play the most important role in helping her gain strength and show her that she has it in her to succeed and put her pluses to her benefit. This is all easier said than done and a friend who stands by you as a pillar only goes to show how important you are in the person's life.

In India, trust is something which is built very slowly, and here we see that there is an elderly lady who has opened her heart and house to these new comers on her floor. And this turns into true trust and love when she takes care of the kids when the girl has to go and earn her living. How many of us can trust our neighbors completely to leave our kids with them for hours? As she also says, it is much better an elderly lady than a house-hold help.

And finally, love the second time around. Completely shunned by many in this land, a woman has a role to play as a wife and a mother, but not as a wife again if the first time does not work. A man on the other hand is not seen to have any societal restrictions, and he can take a lover, marry and settle, all very easily. When a woman does the same, there are so many questions on what would parents say, those around say. Preeti has never really expressed these thoughts openly, but the many occasions where the girl is happy on the world seeing her as a happy family with her lover only shows how she is looking for the society acceptance and how it is an unsaid requirement.

And the very sweet mind of a small child, who yearns for her father to return. The many instances where she is sure her father will come back for her, and he could possibly not have left her.  But, a small dessert, yummy food and a book to read in bed helps her adjust to her new surroundings without a whimper.

The book is a very easy read, and I did sit back and think of how we all sit back at times and take on the role of the pillion rider of our very own lives and you need something to come by and hit you for you to sit up and think straight. At the heart of the book, its about sweet love. Love when it seems inappropriate, the love for a child, the love one showers those who are not even blood related, and most of all, the love that you need by your side to live life completely. 

February 23, 2012

Losing my Virginity and other dumb ideas by Madhuri Banerjee

Vivid and Spunky says Shobha De

One should never confuse between love, relationships and sex. I thought this was the most important take away for me from this book.

In life, we come across many situations where we do not know how a relationship will pan out, but living in the moment and not looking too deeply into matters help in creating space and hence developing our personality, drawing from learnings through these various interactions.

The plot deals with 2 friends, working, single and completely different from each other. One of them on reaching 30, decide its time to  lose the tag of a virgin and not wait for the Mr.Perfect. The other friend is much more experienced in the matter of love and sex, hence sets about getting this project de-virginisation done. From here, it is a ride of relationships, love and letting go the ones you love. Love and relationships, be it between friends, parent and child, lovers, a fling. Each of them have a place in our lives.

When I started with this book, I was skeptical, and thought with the setting in the first 2 chapters, it was to be another chick-lit which I was oh-so not fond of. I must say that I was proven completely wrong and soon I was drawn into the book and was yearning to finish it. The plot moved seamlessly and the book did speak to me. There was something there for me to relate to from my college days, courting days and now being married. What is the important details one considers when thinking of marriage, and what changes once you are? How does the female and male mind think? And think differently, they do.

Another aspect which I loved was how the freedom of youth and being responsible for only ones self was portrayed. It is a wonderful feeling which I lived truly through this book. It does make one reminiscent of the past and the wonders of how years change one's life. I must also add that this book did inspire me to not give up my own identity and become a shadow of someone. That is a very simple thing to do and in the process lose oneself in a very deep gorge. The book also has a very nice view on compromises and where to draw the line. Losing love after all the compromises makes the situation so much more worse than it might already be. Having a hold on oneself and believing are two things which are very much rooted in the book.

I have recommended this book to two of my very close girl friends, as I know they too would cherish college and old days through these pages and you should pick it up too to experience those college care-free love days!

February 15, 2012

Shadow Princess by Indu Sundaresan

This would be my first read in the historic fiction category. I was always wary of how I would like to read history in a leisure activity, but I must say that the historic facts are very seamlessly looped into the story and one does not feel over burdened by facts at any point.

The plot is set in the court of Emperor Shah Jahan, the mughal emperor of Imperial India and the story begins with the death of his beloved third wife, Mumtaz Mahal. Following this incident we have the eldest daughter Jahanara talking over the duties of the Imperial Zenana and tending to all her fathers needs and being the perfect First Woman of the court at the tender age of 17. In due course we see how her brothers as they grow up start to dream of wearing the crown one day and one of them is set on it from the very start. Jahanara becomes completely involved in the activities of court and laden with duties somehow do not know how or when she will have a family of her own, and she is in for a shock when she broaches the subject with her father. Being a woman, falling in love, bearing a child, all she does with the power of being the supreme woman in the Imperial Zenana, but still marriage is not allowed for her on the pretext that her father, the Emperor needs her too much give her away in marriage.

The running of an empire in the Mughal era has been extremely well portrayed and how the princes from a very young age know the rules of kingdom and how each one shall be assigned a role to play. Amongst them also, there are princes who see themselves as more worthy of the crown than others and there are others who are seen more than their true worth. How this feeling within them changes their behaviour and their interaction with their siblings from a very young age. We see that through the book, as they grow older, there is a distinct attachment between some siblings and a more distinct rivalry between some. The emperor sees and discards these rivalries which eventually does become the reason for one of his sons to take the throne and make him a prisoner till death.

The novel is written in a third person narrative with thoughts from every character detailed at one point of time or the other. Fast paced, sufficiently detailed and there is an great understanding of the women in the empire, their role to play and how they can influence politics without ever removing their veils.

I thoroughly enjoyed the book, as I said, my first in this genre, and I think I shall be picking up one soon again.

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