Criticize ?

Ever so often, how very easy it is to criticize someone. When we start to look back and compile all the wrongs done, then we go on a spree on adding all the mistakes which we see and it doesn't cross our mind that crticizing also has to be such that the person appreciates it. It isn't the fault of either party but usually the moment transforms us into one side which is rattling the brain to find all the small details which we tagged as fault, and the other side which is hell bent on proving that the situation would not have called the act as a fault. This becomes a fight between the accuser and the defender. When we talk about any situation why is it that we do not try to stick to the fault at hand but rather try to assimilate all such similar situations. We do it I believe to make the matter at hand more important and help the person understand what we are talking about, and as per us, we are just giving examples to re-emphasize the fact. I feel that this is where we step over from positive criticism to negative criticism. Whatever you might wish it to be, but unless it is taken in the light its expected to be, there lies no hope in driving your point across to the other party. Beyond this I believe we can only hope that our original fact isn't misunderstood !

Are cats truly as intelligent as dogs?

I personally do not know when i will stop this comparison, as anyone who i talk to has just one piece of advice for me ( me being the forever dog lover) " Do not compare a cat to a dog!" An in fact thats what i inevitably do almost everyday, maybe not out aloud but i do start to think of the various differences. Cats have a many strange moods i have noticed, something varying from docile to violent. They are times when Whisky just jumps around and happens to target my feet or hands as her enemy. I have no clue why thats true! And many a times, its just the fun in jumping and attacking a moving object, with no true intention of attack in the true sense of the word. Well... i haven't seen many dogs do this routine! But i have noticed that they also do not tend to bite and lash out in the same tone as a dog does when it is angry. Maybe the size would matter in this case to a large extend, which is why they do not make a very strong attempt at attacking.

Eventually one thing i have noticed is that by the end of the day, irrespective of how they have behaved, they still wish to cuddle up on your lap and fal asleep, which is something i haven't seen in dogs. Dogs tend to be fine sleeping by themselves in some corner, but cats on the other hand seem to need a cozy safe place to sleep. This leads me to question whether they do remember what all they did through the day?

Whisky !

Hadn’t it been for the possibility of adoption, I do not know where I would have got a 2 month old kitten from! Something which initially started with my wanting for a pet pup has now ended with a kitten. I am not complaining as I am quite happy with her pranks and climbing on me too. I would have been more comfortable with a pup as I would have known what he would expect but here it’s a study which I will also be partaking to understand the feline species in greater detail. They are said to be very socializing and receptive to human beings ( as I have extensively read ), till now I do stand by this as the way I have seen her interacting with people around has been quite impressive.

One thing I do realize now is that cats are very intelligent; I have always been a very strong believer that dogs are the most intelligent, but now I suppose I can differ a little from that. My 2 month old kitten, Whisky has been very easily house broken, and she understands what’s the right and wrong. Having experience with dogs and rabbits, I had strong reasons to believe that dogs would certainly rule the intelligence category and I guess to an extend, I do believe that even now. Whisky is certainly quite intelligent but it’s yet to be seen with age how she develops in comparison to a pup. I somehow believe that I shall be right in my assumption that dogs do rule the intelligence cadre, but I am certainly ready to keep an open mind to see how Whisky grows up to be !

Frustration

Something has got me thinking, at times it is said that work should be work; play should be kept part for the well being of both, and there are also other times when play and work should be mixed as a few say. I am sure there are many reasons that either of the sides have, to stand by what they believe to be the right methodology of handling matter. I sometimes think whether we tend to misuse the liberty we get, is it that something which human beings are bound to do. Or is it that the liberty that we wish to hold in our hands will never reach our hands; the very concept of work will not enable us to have these things in our purview. It results in a conflict when its said that there will be a freedom of work style and yet there are some boundaries which are defined within which alone this freedom is allowed to open its wings to the fullest.

At one end I feel, I should maybe try to maintain a different style in work and play. I believe that alone maybe the result which may solve the issue at hand. That way I shall always be not looking to have the freedom. Then why give the pretence of freedom and then follow it by not living up to the expectation! So, all in all I believe having low expectation is the key to having your way, you way being a small one is easily met with also. This may even be seen as a non solving methodology which I have employed so that I shall be not left with a situation without an answer to my query.